Ill disguised micromanagement is so much worse than micromanagement. At least with micromanagement you can sit back and let the control freak knock themselves out. But a micromanager hiding behind vague language creates this weird cloud of ambiguity that makes the toddler question whether they actually have autonomy or if they're going to get in … Continue reading Micromanaging toddlers →

Some animals scare easily. If you strode up to them and put food in their face, despite being desperately hungry they won't take it. They're paralyzed with fear at being approached. It's important for these animals to feel safe and in control so you have to leave the food out and let them approach it … Continue reading Let em come to you →

The 'Not Good Enough' limiting self belief. (pause for dramatic effect) It would have you believe that perfection is your only salvation. When you eliminate all errors and become pure energy, then and only then, will you finally be able to rid yourself of this debilitating narrative. Alas, perfection is, and will always be, unattainable. … Continue reading Perfect red herring →

Whether reality TV is good or trash is completely subjective. So, arguing the case as if it was objective is foolish. There is no right answer. But to go one step further and try and poop all over reality TV after someone has just professed their love for it is a huge social faux pas. … Continue reading Social outcast →

Merry Christmas everyone! I hope you have a marvellous day full of chocolates and fun!

Figure it out yourself. When the usual problem solver is too busy to help, this is both the most effective learning method and the most productive solution. And yet no one wants to do it because it requires thinking.

'He's thinking about his entire country, all 3 million of his compatriots, all the years since their last win, how badly he wants this goal'They're saying this as Messi is lining up a penalty.He is yeah! Messi's in the zone. The only thing he's thinking of is where will I put it and how can … Continue reading Sport dramatisation →

You would think it would be exceedingly complicated to run a great company for 20 years or more.And yet many of the insights in Jim Collins' 'Good to Great' seem like common sense.'Don't be jumping around trying loads of things, pick one endeavour and stick to it' is something I could hear my granny telling … Continue reading Good to great common sense →

I think guessing presents can create misery. Because you let your imagination off the leash and quickly your wildest wishes come to the fore. Then inevitably the present is not your craziest ambition and you're left comparing the present you got with your wildest dream and disappointment is created. Better, I think, to not guess … Continue reading Low present expectations →

'Well I did email him!' 'Yeah but you did so when you knew he was off on holidays and couldn't reply!' ... The afraid employee who feels obligated to fulfill their duty engages in tick the box exercises.