"There is something in psychology known as the 'spotlight effect.' This is the phenomenon where people tend to overestimate how much others notice aspects of one's appearance or behavior." Cabrini.edu A handy definition to know for those wanting to reinvent themselves or leave their comfort zone. It pairs well with the reminder that life is … Continue reading The spotlight effect →

I ran a marathon once and unexpectedly I was cheered on by strangers whilst completing the route. It was great! It was such a lovely moment of humanity. Someone I had no prior contact with whatsoever was supporting me during my battle with adversity. The act gave me a fantastic lift and drove me on … Continue reading Stranger support →

Ruperto guffawed. 'You like Barbies!?!' But Tamathy showed no sign of embarrassment in his reply so Ruperto changed tack at lightning speed, agreed with Tamathy and tried to top his story. Dot dot dot. I think reading people and adapting to their expressions is an invaluable skill. However changing your opinion to match whomever is … Continue reading Reading and adapting →

Nobody seems to share my hatred of this trait. I seem to be alone in getting triggered by this behaviour. It probably says more about me than them but shut up, stop analysing me and get on my level! Lol

What is this meeting for? I think too few teams ask this question. If it's for the CEO to check that everyone is keeping busy then let's be honest about it. Otherwise it makes for confusing meetings riddled with sub text and hidden agendas that waste everyone's time.

In 2013 Matt Le Tissier was inducted into the English Football Hall of Fame. For those who don't know who that is. Le Tissier was a great player who played his entire career for Southampton (a low level never win anything club). Could he have made it at the bigger clubs? 100%! In fact numerous … Continue reading Loyalty or money →

The all knowing and anonymous 'they' say that everyone wants to be part of something special. The thing is, 'special', is up to you. The more you put in, the harder you work, the wider you open up, the more special that cause becomes. I think we don't lack opportunities for special, we just hold … Continue reading Special opportunities →

What I love about personal growth is that when you want it, the world overflows with opportunities. The barriers to entry are extremely low and where you are right now offers infinite chances for self development. It costs nothing to suggest an idea at work and it sounds even better when you volunteer to be … Continue reading Ubiquitous growth →

An exit interview is a tricky proposition. On the one hand there is a possibility your feedback could help former teammates but at the same time you don't want to burn any bridges because who knows what the future holds, you might be working with these people again. I think the level of honesty will … Continue reading How honest to be? →

The group were delighted to be formed for this exciting purpose. All they had to do was unanimously agree on a decision. That was their sole task. One eager beaver kicks off the brainstorming with a good suggestion. But calamity strikes as the team gets bogged down trying to find the 'perfect' option. Ruperto is … Continue reading Finding the perfect option →