I think with relationships you have to get your head straight as soon as possible. Are you getting back together with them or are you fully broken up? I know black and white thinking is largely frowned upon but in this scenario it can save lots of people suffering in the vague grey limbo state. … Continue reading Relationship limbo →

To the untrained eye it looks like a regular conversation between two people. But to the psychologist it is rich in detail. From hearing experts talk in interviews, the dialogue, the subtext, and the body language are all leaving clues as to what is really going on in the brain. I imagine a master psychologist … Continue reading Mundane or rich in detail →

I didn't respond right away because I suspected that he didn't want to hear my answer and in fact he might even get angry at my reply. I considered all sorts of lies to try and find an iron clad excuse to get out of attending. But then I decided that honesty was the best … Continue reading Honest reply →

The group chat of the three musketeers used to be hopping, always going off! You couldn't go ten minutes without getting a message. But now it's dead and it's been dead for a while now. But Aramis noticed that Athos and Porthos are still staying in touch. Which made him think - maybe they stopped … Continue reading Aramis’ suspicions →

Picture the scene, I'm standing on the station platform waiting for the train. I deliberately chose this spot in case the train was a short one. The train starts to pull into the station and everyone on the platform starts walking along the platform toward the front carriage. The train that pulled in was the … Continue reading Station walking →

The universe must have a sense of humour. For when you complain of distractions and not being able to get anything done, what happens next? You get a distraction free day and are completely left alone to do the work. Then you find the work interminably boring or excruciatingly challenging and before long are searching … Continue reading Distracted or bored →

How do I life coach someone who doesn't want to change? You don't. The one crucial foundation stone of change is that they have to want it for themselves. The best advice in the world falls on deaf ears if they don't want to hear it. You can add tension to their life. Tension is … Continue reading They don’t want change →

Queer Eye is a funny concept. It appears that celebrities and a camera crew have a better chance of changing a person than their own spouse. On the surface that sounds like a sorry state of affairs. Why aren't these people listening to their closest loved ones? But then again a stranger can have more … Continue reading Spouse v celebrity →

I think bad fortune is made ten times worse when we bemoan - why me? The narrative of deserving good luck and being victimized means exerting a lot of energy and dwelling in a negative and unproductive state. Today is a new day. The world doesn't owe you anything. Now, how are you going to … Continue reading Bad fortune moaning →

It would be a great world if you could rely on others to always have your best interests at heart. I think attachment to this ideal probably speaks to a desire to have faith in humanity. So it can feel hurtful when others prioritize their agenda over your wellbeing but maybe it should be downgraded … Continue reading Protecting the self →