The status quo is truly a worthy opponent. It turns bright young sparks into jaded cynical old cranks. It requires an indomitable spirit and an indefatigable persistence to change it. So bright young sparks I think you should be sympathetic to the beaten down old cranks because they probably tried. Also they might not be … Continue reading Changing the status quo →

You know your stand up set didn't quite hit the mark when the first thing an audience member says is: 'That's a great jacket you're wearing!' Yes it can be disappointing that they didn't like the jokes you told but on the bright side at least they care enough about your feelings to find something … Continue reading Great jacket! →

I think deep psychology is scary to most. I think it shatters the illusion that we are wise rational beings. To see merit in a deeper more sadistic motive behind decisions can be disturbing. We'd like to think we are evolved creatures who make informed decisions, not that we chose inferior friends so that we … Continue reading Psychological digging →

I feel like a fraud. I can't say with certainty that my way is right. It could be wrong. It could be very wrong! And the points those challengers are making, have merit to them. They could be right. How can I go on with this doubt? How can I look someone in the eye … Continue reading Imposter syndrome →

Jamie uses Tinder. Jamie gets lots of matches. But Jamie never replies to any messages. I suspect Jamie uses Tinder for the validation. Because here we have an easy way to see how many people find Jamie attractive. A quantifiable number that otherwise requires mind-reading to figure out.

Isn't it funny that you could go to a school reunion and end up only talking to the people you are in regular contact with? Like doesn't that miss the point? Aren't you supposed to attend a reunion to reconnect with those you've fallen out of touch with? But at the same time, it makes … Continue reading Reunion cliques →

It's only fair to tell them why.You do them a disservice by hiding behind generic lies like:'It's not you it's me'If they never know what they did wrong, how can they improve?They are doomed to eternally repeating the same mistakes without your honest feedback.You could help them.

"If it is your job to eat a frog, then do it first thing in the morning. And if it is your job to eat two frogs, eat the bigger one first" Mark Twain I think what Mr. Twain was getting at is you suffer twice when you procrastinate dirty smelly uncomfortable tasks you have … Continue reading Eating frogs →

To think it is one thing (god Joni is being such a cow) but to say it out loud to another human being (here, isn't Joni such a cow?) makes it feel that bit more real and also someone is now there to bear witness to your thoughts. Furthermore if that witness replies in kind … Continue reading Dangerous thought transformations →

It's funny how if I don't publish immediately the less assertive I become. It's like the resistance can jam itself in the tiniest of cracks and expand like freezing ice. Transforming what was just a few moments ago an assertive individual into a barrel of doubts and fear. I may have just finished a blog … Continue reading Not publishing immediately →