"You're a terrible person" A comment that would be outrageous to say to another human being and yet acceptable to say to yourself several times a day. It's funny really how the key to confidence is not expensive suits, watches and cars. It's actually the free installation of a best friend in your own head. … Continue reading Internal best friend →

In the movie the King's speech there is a haunting quote:"I was afraid of my father and my kids are damn well going to be afraid of me."There are so many in the world who would use their suffering as an excuse to torture others.My boss shouted at me, so I'm going to shout at … Continue reading Haunting quote →

I think as long as a debate stays logical, the exchange of ideas can be highly beneficial to all.But I think that all goes out the window when someone uses a condescending tone.It's a cheap tactic.It's a mean-spirited jab that moves the conversation away from logic and towards insecurities.It says rather than trying to match … Continue reading Condescending tone →

Ah well.I think that's the reaction of a secure person to insecure thoughts.When you're mid conversation with someone and the thought arises 'I'm boring them'.Instead of reacting to it by crafting sensational lies instead it's a simple:Ah well, you can't expect everyone to like you.

Did you know they record Tom Brady's passes?Sports analysts tally his pass completions and his failed attempts to come up with a pass percentage.It's an interesting metric to show the accuracy and effectiveness of the player.Now what if someone applied that principle to worrying?What if we tallied all the times the scenario we dreaded actually … Continue reading Worry accuracy →

You notice that all of a sudden they've gone quiet. They look to be a small bit ashamed at all the oversharing they just did. I think in this instance if you're feeling courageous and generous then the best solution is to match vulnerability with vulnerability. Reach into the well (as deep as you're willing … Continue reading Matching vulnerability with vulnerability →

In one episode of Scrubs Carla didn't agree with Dr. Kelso's decision. So she was faced with a dilemma. On the one hand she wanted her opinion heard but on the other hand she wanted to preserve her relationship with Dr. Kelso. So eventually Carla decided to use JD as a vehicle for getting her … Continue reading Carla and Kant →

I find no superficial topic is discussed with such vigor as when the attendees have come in close contact with a serious or deep and meaningful subject. It's like the conversationalists narrowly escaped death and have gotten a new lease on life. The close call invigorated them and they want to talk about shallow unimportant … Continue reading Conversation close call →

If you are slow to call yourself an artist because you have negative associations with the term (artists are supposed to be unpredictable, erratic, unreliable and snobby) or because you feel unworthy (at the moment) to put yourself in the same category as the greats. Don't worry you're not alone. Meryl Streep once said: "I … Continue reading Labels →

I think the downside of a 'How to' book is that it leaves little room for the reader to think. Instructions, once laid out, are there to follow or not. I think there's no great rumination or epiphanies with a step by step guide. There's no inviting the user to view the entire subject matter … Continue reading How to books →