An interview I saw once (and I’m paraphrasing): Interviewer: For anyone watching who doesn’t know anything about you, tell them a little about yourself Seth Godin: Well I’m not interested in the people who don’t know me. I’m interested in showing up for the followers I have already. ... You’re at a party and in … Continue reading Who do you chat to? →

Without feedback learning can be very difficult.  Without feedback you have no idea if you hit the mark or not.  But what's great about feedback is that you don't necessarily need others to attain it.  You can see with your own eyes if you scored a goal. You can peruse Google Analytics to see if … Continue reading Feedback →

The jaded individual has grown to be pessimistic, as he believes change isn't possible. He views problem solving and adapting approaches as futile, as it's all going to have the same result. The optimist on the other hand not only finds the differences in this new attempt but takes measures to ensure this venture will … Continue reading This time will be different →

"If you're talking that means you're not listening" But I've got something clever to say! Well if you listen you can be more relevant. Nah I want to be seen as clever!

With today's technology it's easier than ever to talk to people. Meetings with participants calling in from numerous locations are a common occurrence. Therefore having someone physically present for a meeting is a big deal. The participants may have travelled a good distance, they may have cleared their schedule, they may have sacrificed other work … Continue reading What is the point of this meeting? →

The cool kid scoffs at the jocks training so hard and the geeks for getting dressed up in cosplay. The cool kid doesn't try and doesn't care about anything. Well I think he's missing out.  The more you care, the more effort you're willing to put in and therefore the more likely you are to … Continue reading It’s fun to care →

To see a message and not reply is considered a virtual slap in the face these days. It evokes feelings of being ignored or rejected. To avoid this some people will deliberately delay reading a message til they are ready to reply. But then the neurotic can say check the delivery report and start to … Continue reading Message seen →

Often times you see a group use shame as a tactic for compliance. Those attending make those not attending feel guilty. It can be quite effective but the problem is that this tactic is inherently negative. You can’t be sure if people are participating of their own volition or simply to avoid the shame from … Continue reading Shaming compliance →

The confidence that comes from comparison is a brittle confidence. If you only feel confident when you have the biggest yacht in the harbour then you're vulnerable. All you need is someone to come along with a bigger yacht and that's it, your confidence is shot. Your cherished identity as the guy with the biggest … Continue reading Yacht confidence →

Fred is in the market for a Star Wars Christmas jumper but not any old Star Wars Christmas jumper! He wants one that shows how much of a fan he is.  Fred can do this by the amount of money he spends, the material quality of the jumper and the Star Wars knowledge required to … Continue reading Star Wars Christmas jumpers →