Should you forgive and forget? I think the key to answering that question is - is change evident?  Does the wrongdoer show signs of changing their behaviour so as not to repeat the mistake?  Nobody is exempt from mistakes but some ensure it nevers happens again.

Trying to start a conversation with someone who doesn't want to talk to you is like attempting to draw blood from a stone. On the other hand, conversations with those who are willing to engage, go off without a hitch. Speaking with the enrolled, those interested and eager to converse, means preserving energy and overall … Continue reading Searching for enrollment. →

Death: Time's up Jeremy Jeremy: What? Now? Death: Yep Jeremy: Ah what? I thought I had so much more time! Death: Nope, come on Jeremy: That's not fair Death: Not fair? It's in the T's & C's ... "can end at any moment". Jeremy: But I never learnt how to play the guitar! Death: Not … Continue reading Time’s up Jeremy →

The need for guaranteed success is a recipe for stress for you and all around you. It's the reason coaches lose the plot. It turns managers into micro-managers. But the thing is, there is no guarantees of success. The patriots have recently been knocked out of the NFL championship. They had Bill Belichick and Tom … Continue reading Guaranteed success →

In the past 8 years Munster Rugby have had 4 different coaches and won 0 competitions. I can't help but wonder if there is a correlation there.  Each manager is unique, they have their own opinions and ways of working. More importantly they have their own philosophy on how to play rugby. A philosophy that … Continue reading Managing Pressure →

Sex education is a good show. I would recommend it. For those of you who aren't familiar with it, the show is based around the son of a sex therapist using his inherited knowledge to advise his classmates on sex. We're into the second season and I have spotted a trend.  The majority of the … Continue reading No avoidance, no stress →

When the stakes are high, when the game is on the line, some players shy away and some players up their game. The fact is, everyone gets nervous about pressure but the great players have figured out how to lean into the fear and produce results.   The same can be said for uncertainty. Everyone … Continue reading Uncertainty resilience →

Pete: Have you seen the Gentlemen? John: No, is it any good? Pete: Ya it's class! It's a Guy Ritchie movie. John: Who's Guy Ritchie? Pete: He's the lad who made 'Snatch' and 'Lock, Stock & Two Smoking Barrels'.  ... Now Guy Ritchie has made other films since Snatch and Pete has seen those other … Continue reading Flop memory →

Tony Robbins has a 90 second rule. Whenever he’s feeling negative in anyway he gives himself 90 seconds to snap out of it. He has learned to minimize moping and feeling sorry for himself. Isn’t that amazing? But what’s even better is that if he can do it that means you can do it too! … Continue reading 90 second rule →

I will go out on a limb and say that spending 2 hours networking is more draining than 8 hours with your best friends. My hypothesis to support this claim is... Socialising is draining when you are acting. When you feel you have to put on a face or watch what you say and generally … Continue reading Acting is draining →