'Say it to them so!' The ultimate complaint killer. Now they either have to stop moaning or take action. Either way, you don't have to hear about it anymore!

Is there only one reality? If two people can walk away from one meeting with polar opposite opinions of how it went, can we call reality subjective? Every self help book in the world spends at least 300 pages trying to sell you on changing your view of reality. The self help literature will say … Continue reading Reality lens →

I think a good shock is one that is outrageous whilst still being believable. If it's too big a leap then it seems weird, out of character and more baffling than shocking. 'He's retiring to become a monk, what?!? Why?' If it's too typical of that person then it's not shocking. 'Of course they're getting … Continue reading Outrageous yet believable →

I think the holding of 'dirt' is the sign of a bad relationship. It doesn't matter whether it's you or them storing the incriminating evidence, if it's present it screams toxicity. It makes fear a major part of the dynamic. You're either constantly living in fear of unsavoury evidence being released or relishing the anxiety … Continue reading Dirty relationship →

Standing up for yourself might seem terrifying and occasionally cause short term pain but I don't think anyone has ever regretted it.

I think respect is a major pillar of relationships. Let's say for example a wife asks her husband to not see his ex so often as it makes her uncomfortable. I think what the husband does next will speak volumes for how he views their marriage and what direction the relationship will take in the … Continue reading Respecting others wishes →

I think the feeling of helplessness is the real killer when it comes to addiction. I think if you determine yourself to be a slave to your addictions it'll become a self fulfilling prophecy. You'll give in every time. So I think building confidence in your ability to resist is crucial.

I'm giving a big presentation on Friday all by myself so naturally a war is waging inside me. In the left corner we have practical wisdom who wants to get the presentation finished as soon as possible and practice as much as possible. And in the right corner we have the saboteurs perfectionism and fear … Continue reading Presentation Friday →

It was so odd. He didn't cry when he was discussing his truly grim childhood but he did breakdown when they played back the audio of him talking. And it wasn't any deep conversation or meaningful topic, it was just audio of him introducing himself. With the playback it finally hit home just how much … Continue reading Self deprecating audio →

Harry Potter, Dune, and Lord of the Rings, are all examples of books that have been adapted to the big screen. So you would think fans of the books would enjoy the movies. Yeah maybe but not one fan type. The zealot. This type of fan is too close to the books to enjoy any … Continue reading Dune Zealots →