With proper planning and perspective, stress is avoidable. Planning helps you manifest a large portion of the future and perspective comes to the rescue when the unexpected mistakes occur, ensuring you have a calm day.

The bear cub jumped repeatedly on the mama bear's back until he slipped down her side. The mama bear didn't look round. She didn't need to. Next second the baby bear bounded up to her front and tried to paw at her face. Once, twice, three times but no luck! Mama bear ain't shifting her … Continue reading Mama bear’s lesson →

The problem with anxiety, apart from the crippling fear, is that there is always something to be anxious about. If traffic turns out to be fine and you make it to work on time then you gain a brief respite before you start fretting about your boss' mood or if you're prepared enough for the … Continue reading Incessantly anxious →

When I analyse the misconceptions and assumptions that have got me in trouble, I often find the root cause to be the merging of observations and judgements. For example I observe alcoholic Al at the bar, card in hand and immediately judge him to be indulging his destructive tendencies. I then get annoyed, confront Al, … Continue reading Observationsandjudgements merged →

Just because there is a stereotype surrounding creatives does not mean you have to reinforce it. There is no correlation between emotional instability and creativity. You can be a creative who hits deadlines, who is easy going and not a perfectionist. Being called a creative does not give you the excuse to abuse and ruin … Continue reading Creative stereotypes →

When you know what to look for the storyteller's focus can be quite easy to glean. Where are the pauses? What aspects are being emphasized? Then as an audience member, you make certain judgements. Firstly you judge the content of the story - 'good lord Madrid sounds awful!'. Secondly you judge the storyteller for things … Continue reading Intention and judgement →

The Russian invasion of Ukraine is now over 100 days old and, as I gauge the public opinion, there isn't the same outrage as day one. In fact you might be excused to forget it was on what with the newspapers and media outlets choosing to let celebrity court cases and reality TV shows dominate … Continue reading 100+ days of invasion →

The wall, Said it all, Specially made, To provide aid, Towards the execution, Of an unhindered notion, Had it been suggested by the intern, They would've scoffed and said in a patronising tone - here's a book go and learn, But it wasn't, Twas the brainchild of Director Russent, Surrounded by Yes men, They told … Continue reading Wall poem #1 →

I think it's a sign of true adulthood when you foster a friendship with someone you have little in common with (including chemistry). As a kid you could be picky. You only spoke to those inside your inner circle because why not? Why tolerate anything less than the best? But time has its cruel way … Continue reading Forced small talk →

I think every team needs someone to care.Otherwise apathy and negligence seeps in.With professional teams the coach or manager is paid to care the most but with volunteer and amateur teams it relies on someone stepping up to the caring plate.Someone to start and nudge the momentum even if it's something as simple as - … Continue reading Leading by caring →