"Not my mess, not my problem!" A comment that highlights our aversion to work. All of a sudden dirty dishes have become a matter of principle. We can accept being responsible for cleaning up after ourselves but not others. That's where we draw the line! I reckon at the root of this comment is the … Continue reading Not my mess, not my problem
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Addiction defies logic
Al is an alcoholic. But don't worry he's learned the error of his ways and has signed himself up for rehab. Upon entry they searched Al's bags and found a bottle of whiskey. So this addict, Al, had enough clairvoyance to know he needed to change but at the same time just couldn't help himself. … Continue reading Addiction defies logic
Telling v asking
One should consider how reactions differ based on the phrasing used. "You haven't been more successful because you're lazy!" This phrasing evokes a feeling of being attacked and most likely annoys the listener. "Tell me why haven't you been more successful?" This phrasing sparks an inward reflection, an opportunity to be heard and a chance to … Continue reading Telling v asking
Interventions
I've never experienced an intervention but I imagine they must be awful. Putting your loved one on the spot, asking tough questions and making them uncomfortable. It is undoubtedly an awkward situation and one a lot of people would avoid. But it could help your loved one. And that's the crux of it, do you … Continue reading Interventions
Only calm in the Caribbean
Taming the voice in your head isn't specific to a location or time. It simply requires practice. Jetting off to the Caribbean everytime you feel flustered is impractical and expensive. It's much more effective to take the time to build up your tolerance and belief in your ability to handle stressful situations. You are capable of … Continue reading Only calm in the Caribbean
Adult requirement
Just because someone is an adult doesn't mean they are immune to acting irresponsibly. To abandoning common sense and making decisions out of fear. You would think you would get wiser with age but the only requirement for being an adult is time spent alive. Age does not correlate with wisdom. There are a lot … Continue reading Adult requirement
Who do you chat to?
An interview I saw once (and I’m paraphrasing): Interviewer: For anyone watching who doesn’t know anything about you, tell them a little about yourself Seth Godin: Well I’m not interested in the people who don’t know me. I’m interested in showing up for the followers I have already. ... You’re at a party and in … Continue reading Who do you chat to?
Feedback
Without feedback learning can be very difficult. Without feedback you have no idea if you hit the mark or not. But what's great about feedback is that you don't necessarily need others to attain it. You can see with your own eyes if you scored a goal. You can peruse Google Analytics to see if … Continue reading Feedback
This time will be different
The jaded individual has grown to be pessimistic, as he believes change isn't possible. He views problem solving and adapting approaches as futile, as it's all going to have the same result. The optimist on the other hand not only finds the differences in this new attempt but takes measures to ensure this venture will … Continue reading This time will be different
Listening v talking
"If you're talking that means you're not listening" But I've got something clever to say! Well if you listen you can be more relevant. Nah I want to be seen as clever!
