It's only fair to tell them why.You do them a disservice by hiding behind generic lies like:'It's not you it's me'If they never know what they did wrong, how can they improve?They are doomed to eternally repeating the same mistakes without your honest feedback.You could help them.

"If it is your job to eat a frog, then do it first thing in the morning. And if it is your job to eat two frogs, eat the bigger one first" Mark Twain I think what Mr. Twain was getting at is you suffer twice when you procrastinate dirty smelly uncomfortable tasks you have … Continue reading Eating frogs →

To think it is one thing (god Joni is being such a cow) but to say it out loud to another human being (here, isn't Joni such a cow?) makes it feel that bit more real and also someone is now there to bear witness to your thoughts. Furthermore if that witness replies in kind … Continue reading Dangerous thought transformations →

It's funny how if I don't publish immediately the less assertive I become. It's like the resistance can jam itself in the tiniest of cracks and expand like freezing ice. Transforming what was just a few moments ago an assertive individual into a barrel of doubts and fear. I may have just finished a blog … Continue reading Not publishing immediately →

I think one of the key traits of productive creatives is a comfortability with shit work. The pro knows that shitty drafts are part of the cycle. Each of their projects went through a stage where it was really poor for a while. But they didn't panic, they didn't quit, they kept plugging away at … Continue reading The shit stage →

Once someone said to me: Can I ask you a question? Because I feel it would be great to get the other side's point of view. But they never asked me the question! They proceeded to talk but it never condensed into a single query. There I sat listening intently. Waiting. But by the time … Continue reading Pontification posing →

The nuances of stadium design are most likely lost on the average punter. The fact that you can make a trip to the bathroom and return to your seat within 6 minutes could be revolutionary in the stadium industry but do the members of the public appreciate that? I think, before taking offence, it's important … Continue reading Nuances of stadium design →

It's interesting how much pain and suffering occurs in the space between how you think life should be and how life is. So when a colleague sends a rude email, you moan and groan, complain to your spouse and overall dread replying. Why? Because people aren't supposed to be rude, at least not in your … Continue reading Fantasy tainting real →

How is anyone supposed to get any work done in today's world? There is just notifications upon notifications upon notifications. The dinging is incessant. If it's not my work email, it's the work instant message chat. If it's not my personal WhatsApp groups, it's Facebook trying to win me back. Like how are you supposed … Continue reading Notifications on notifications →

Should the serial adulterer take satisfaction from the fact that he is getting better at hiding his infidelities? Cheating, lying and stealing are in my eyes not areas for investing time and effort. Better I think to make a choice regarding the type of person you want to be. Then having the courage to continuously … Continue reading Bravery over skills →