I've known Don for decades but I can never reach him emotionally. It's all surface level superficial small talk. I have never witnessed his gooey soft side, it remains well hidden beneath his hard exterior. Sally on the other hand I've known for a hot minute but it feels like we are deeply connected. We … Continue reading Reach them emotionally →

On a night out your suggestions for change can be dismissed as drunken gibberish. If you get too emotional, the accused can divert attention away from what you say to how you're saying it and whisper stupid things to others like - oh it must be that time of the month again. But when your … Continue reading Dispassionate criticisms →

It's very dangerous to not care because then you act with reckless abandon but then again, you only have one life that could end at any moment. Can you afford to spend it miserable?

Hygiene maintenance? Mental health? An exercise in control? A means to avoid a scolding? A distraction from loneliness? A reminder that life is suffering? Inspiration for a blog post? Alright, it's time to actually do it now.

It was 4 hours into an 8 hour flight and Hilda was doing a great job of not making eye contact or interacting whatsoever with the man beside her with the giant coat. Then he took his coat off and revealed an extreme knitting badge pinned to his jumper. Hilda couldn't believe it. It was … Continue reading Stranger to community member →

I think there will never be a definitive answer. I think choose the one that makes you feel best. If it helps you sleep at night feeling that you can change your life then go for it! If it calms your nerves knowing it's all part of a plan and things will work out in … Continue reading Fate or free will →

It's annoying to constantly have to pump people up. It's exhausting to continuously play devil's advocate for someone else's internal critic. If it's a ploy for praise then it is an irritating one. To hazard a guess at why... It's draining to constantly be around someone who is always down on themselves and unable to … Continue reading Pumping up others →

'Are you ok?' The honest answer is 'No, I'm not ok' but due to the setting I don't feel enough psychological safety to provide an honest answer so instead I'm just going to say 'I'm fine'. I think it's no coincidence that counselling sessions are done in a quiet private room with only the bare … Continue reading Psychological setting →

It starts with a mistake or a snafu or a mishap. Then we have the inquisitor. This is the person who starts the game. They bring the tension. They get the other players nervous - a crucial ingredient for the game. Some might even say the cornerstone of the game! Then the next step is … Continue reading The blame game →

An observation makes passive watching insightful watching. It takes 3 individual dots and connects them. It shines the light on a pattern and illuminates the path to betterment.