As long as you wait for the status quo to change of it's own accord, you will invite frustration into your life. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy of annoyance. You spot the pattern, you make a prediction and when it comes true it only drives you up the walls. My solution to this is - … Continue reading Annoyance prophecy →

Some people marvel at grown men who get tattoos referencing a trophy they won when they were 16 but I get it. It's so easy to get swept up in the glory of playing for your school because the community buys in. The younger kids look up to you. The teachers wish you luck. The … Continue reading Glory days →

I think when the goal is to simply win a game or a tournament you cap the potential growth. All the effort you need is to do just enough to win. You simply more points than the opposition at the end of the game. But if your goal is to become the best version of … Continue reading 5 minute Bronco →

The interviewer confessed how awkward he felt sitting in front of the two football players. The two players were Tom Brady and Drew Bledsoe and the awkwardness was stemming from the fact that it was Superbowl week and there was great debate and uncertainty surrounding who would start for the New England Patriots. Now what … Continue reading Drew and Tom →

Simon handed Kurt a jelly. He thanked Simon and went to eat it. Then he saw that it was the last jelly from the box and handed it back to Simon. No persuasion technique in the world could've swayed Kurt's opinion. There was no way Kurt was going to eat it now. --- The last … Continue reading The Last Jelly →

For some people their desire to help is bigger than their capacity to help. They want to be of service and generous with their time and effort but they overextend and don't have the resources to back it up. Whilst this comes from a place of great love it can prove problematic as the helper … Continue reading Overextending helping others →

Sometimes you will see the the principle of reciprocity at play in conversations. If I ask the question to enough people in the circle there's a good chance someone will return the favour. Some people will use this to their advantage and ask questions they really want to answer themselves. That way they get to … Continue reading Reciprocal conversation →

Those who run everyday know that you can't skip a day. Because skipping a day makes it that much harder to get back on track. All the self sabotage gremlin needs is the tiniest of cracks, the merest hint of hesitation to take that day off and make it two. Then four. Then four more. … Continue reading No run today →

I think the scariest aspect of villains is their lack of humanity. For example Keyser Soze comes home to find his family being held at gun point by a rival gang demanding something or other. You would think Keyser is in trouble here, he's going to have to give the rival gang what they want. … Continue reading Lack of humanity →

You would think there would be no money in meditation. It's an exercise you can practice any time anywhere. All you need to do is focus on your breathing. And yet there is a meditation retreat in Oman that charges $17,000 for a week's stay. Why? Because meditation is subjected to all the same eccentric … Continue reading Meditation money →