Is it any coincidence that critics are rarely in the line of fire? The opportunities to find a critic outside of their comfort zone, vulnerable, are few and far between. They seldom expose themselves to the kind of criticism they so readily dish out.   Does this sound familiar? "That looks terrible!" "If you know … Continue reading Critics →

I made a movie recently (link) and when I was nailing down the separate deadlines, I added two weeks extra. I felt a small bit guilty about this. That maybe I was taking it easier on myself. But flash forward two months and I published just a day after I planned. Just one day after … Continue reading Scheduling for setbacks →

"Not my mess, not my problem!" A comment that highlights our aversion to work. All of a sudden dirty dishes have become a matter of principle. We can accept being responsible for cleaning up after ourselves but not others. That's where we draw the line! I reckon at the root of this comment is the … Continue reading Not my mess, not my problem →

Al is an alcoholic. But don't worry he's learned the error of his ways and has signed himself up for rehab. Upon entry they searched Al's bags and found a bottle of whiskey. So this addict, Al, had enough clairvoyance to know he needed to change but at the same time just couldn't help himself. … Continue reading Addiction defies logic →

One should consider how reactions differ based on the phrasing used. "You haven't been more successful because you're lazy!" This phrasing evokes a feeling of being attacked and most likely annoys the listener. "Tell me why haven't you been more successful?" This phrasing sparks an inward reflection, an opportunity to be heard and a chance to … Continue reading Telling v asking →

I've never experienced an intervention but I imagine they must be awful. Putting your loved one on the spot, asking tough questions and making them uncomfortable. It is undoubtedly an awkward situation and one a lot of people would avoid. But it could help your loved one. And that's the crux of it, do you … Continue reading Interventions →

Taming the voice in your head isn't specific to a location or time.  It simply requires practice.  Jetting off to the Caribbean everytime you feel flustered is impractical and expensive.  It's much more effective to take the time to build up your tolerance and belief in your ability to handle stressful situations.  You are capable of … Continue reading Only calm in the Caribbean →

Just because someone is an adult doesn't mean they are immune to acting irresponsibly. To abandoning common sense and making decisions out of fear. You would think you would get wiser with age but the only requirement for being an adult is time spent alive. Age does not correlate with wisdom. There are a lot … Continue reading Adult requirement →

An interview I saw once (and I’m paraphrasing): Interviewer: For anyone watching who doesn’t know anything about you, tell them a little about yourself Seth Godin: Well I’m not interested in the people who don’t know me. I’m interested in showing up for the followers I have already. ... You’re at a party and in … Continue reading Who do you chat to? →

Without feedback learning can be very difficult.  Without feedback you have no idea if you hit the mark or not.  But what's great about feedback is that you don't necessarily need others to attain it.  You can see with your own eyes if you scored a goal. You can peruse Google Analytics to see if … Continue reading Feedback →