The victim blames everyone else for their misfortune. They accumulate a long list of excuses for their lack of success and they cherish this list. This list is the key to staying a victim. The opposite of a victim is someone who takes responsibility. Who looks at their life in its current state and says … Continue reading Victim hood →

A slide with a lot of text presents the audience with a dilemma. Specifically, where to place their attention. There's a presenter who wants you to listen to them and there's text that wants you to read it.  Doing one well means ignoring the other and trying to do both simultaneously means reduced retention.  If … Continue reading Texty Slides →

Eating out used to be so easy.  You would wait to be seated. They sit you down, take your order and then, when finished, pay at the table.  But nowadays there is so many different restaurants and each one of them is looking to be unique. It begs the question: What kind of restaurant is this? … Continue reading In here we do this →

The grass is always greener aka. "My life would be better if I was over there..." Well, you may well be right. As long as you don't view 'over there' as some idyllic pain free existence, then go for it! Move! If you've considered the negatives of over there and are happy with them, then … Continue reading Greener grass →

How is this relevant to me? The question every audience member asks and if the speaker fails to answer, the biggest reason to mentally switch off.

It's the office olympics and you need to select a team member to represent your department in the next event.  Your department is on the brink of elimination and need a win to stay in the competition.  Harry is your best player but Fred hasn't played yet. Who do you pick? Harry or Fred? Well … Continue reading Office Olympics →

I'm reading 'Emotional Agility' by Susan David at the moment and I came across an interesting term. It's called emotional leakage. What happens is that after emotions have been bottled up for a long period of time they come out in unnecessarily extreme amounts, hence the leakage. The scary thing about this is that one … Continue reading Emotional Leakage →

Woody Allen once said: “80% of success is simply showing up” You might read that and think oh that’s easy I could do that. All I have to do is show up. Piece of cake! Then you might discover that showing up regularly and consistently is actually quite difficult. It means being there, producing, no … Continue reading Showing up →

Matt is a Maths tutor and at the moment he only has two students: Mary and Muriel.  Matt loves teaching Mary, she is a great student. She shows up everyday with the homework done and is always eager to learn. The same can't be said for Muriel. Muriel is present against her will, forced to … Continue reading Matt’s students →

It’s funny how much expectations influence happiness. Had my expectations been lower then I would’ve been delighted with the reality. But they weren’t and despite there being some positives from the outcome they didn’t reach the highs of my expectations. The problem was, I believe, that I let my imagination run amok and determine the … Continue reading Imagination and expectations →