Getting reassurance is so nice. Once you hear it a wave of calm washes over you immediately afterwards. You can relax now knowing you're doing the right thing. It usually takes the form of an inexperienced person asking an experienced person for guidance. But what happens when an experienced peer is absent? What if you're … Continue reading Reassurance for Columbus →

Trust is like building a house of cards, it can take a lengthy period of time consisting of precise careful decisions and it only takes one error for it all to come crashing down.

One of the common thoughts I have when listening to the Beatles is - Ugh they were so good, why did they have to break up? The more I learn about them the more it becomes clear to me that this extraordinary group broke up for an ordinary reason - they simply grew apart. By … Continue reading Beatles break up →

Sleeping in a shabby student accommodation bed was awful. It was especially awful because I spent the previous night in a luxury 5 star hotel bed. The student bed had no chance. My expectations were simply too high. Raised by an impossibly comfy hotel bed. In hindsight sleeping in the student bed first would've been … Continue reading Student v hotel bed →

'It's their emolument.' 'What does that mean?' 'Emoluments? It's like tips.' 'So why didn't you just say tips?' 'Because I wanted to say emolument' 'But it means the exact same thing as tips?' 'Yeah but..' 'And it's quicker to say tips too?' 'It's not that much quicker' 'Well it's quicker then having to explain it' … Continue reading Emolument v tip →

If you're late once that's ok, nobody's perfect. But Bob is continuously late and because of that he has lost the trust of his peers. If Bob says he'll be there for 6 nobody believes him, they set their expectations for him to arrive anywhere between 6:30 & 7. Bob's peers find it excusable when … Continue reading Arriving Late and trust. →

Kyle: Alright I'm going to ask her out Paul: Go on you good thing! Kyle sends the text Kyle: Argh why hasn't she responded yet?!? Paul: Because you sent the text seconds ago! Calm down bud! If you're that anxious for a response then either one of two things is happening: 1) You have a … Continue reading Waiting for a response →

I am now a proud owner of Cognitive Behaviour Therapy for Dummies. Yep, for dummies. Through interviews and podcasts I had often heard of the benefits of CBT but only recently got round to actually buying a book on it and dreading the potential technical jargon I went for the dummy guide 😛 I'm now … Continue reading CBT for dummies →

There's nothing quite like the euphoria of solving a particularly difficult problem. A problem you battled with for what felt like an eternity and at one point even thought it was impossible to solve but you found the answer in the end. That sweet satisfying sense of achievement can be a great source of encouragement … Continue reading Persevering in problem solving →

Bitching, although not an advisable practice, can be a exercise in trust. If two people conduct a 'bitching' session and the discussion remains a secret between the two then both parties have increased trust in each other. Whether as, if one person confides in another and the confidant leaks harmful quotes then the complainer has … Continue reading Trust bitching →