The fear of judgement prevents one from speaking up, leaving their comfort zone or doing something creative. The fear of regret pushes one to speak up, leave their comfort zone or make something creative. The fear of judgement feeds wondering. An eternal speculation of how life could've been different if you took action. The fear … Continue reading Judgement v regret →

Falling asleep is one of those odd exercises where desire and effort are a hindrance. The more you want it and the more effort you expend the harder it is to attain. Someone who's lying in bed desperately wanting to sleep may find themselves tossing and turning all night in frustration. In order to fall … Continue reading Falling asleep →

The court shall now hear the defense. Mr Frissel you have accused yourself of being an idiot. Why is that? Because of what I said to that girl today. Are you a god Mr. Frissel? A what? A god! Eh no What are you then? A human Ah and do humans make mistakes? Yes but... … Continue reading Frissel’s defense →

It's no coincidence that the harder tasks on the to do list are left to last. I call it productive procrastination! You scan your to do list, you see difficult tasks amongst easy tasks and you choose to do the easy tasks first. You rationalise this by saying it's quick and easy but really you're … Continue reading Productive procrastination →

I can understand why young people move back home. Home is familiar. Home feels safe. The big bad world is full of the unknown, the unfair and the unsafe. No wonder people choose the familiar and safe when this is the alternative.  

When considering a gift recently received, the effort and thoughtfulness of the giver can enhance the gift. If the gift was extremely convenient to acquire then it shows little effort eg. money is quite a convenient gift but a limited early edition copy of a book may be extremely hard to find. How much thought … Continue reading Considering gifts →

We did it anyway That’s a great phrase. Without knowing anything about the story you can tell that something didn’t go to plan and it didn’t stop them. They persevered and achieved the goal despite the setback. Well done!

One of the common initiations in team sports is to get up in front of your new teammates and sing a song. This particular ritual is a great example of the misalignment between the comfort zone and the safety zone. When called upon for a song it's no coincidence that your mind instantly draws a … Continue reading Misaligned comfort and safety zone →

Travel experience is one of the many ways one can gain the upper hand in the wrestle for status roles. You often see in seemingly 'pleasant' conversations surrounding holidays, there lies a hidden wrestling match for status roles.   The one who has traveled further or who had a more adventurous holiday is the victor! … Continue reading Travel and status roles →

The topic of weddings provides a rich conversation source in today's society. Interactions that often lead to lengthy discussions and comparisons on anything related to the wedding. With each wedding looking to be unique and remarkable in it's own way to feed this social norm I believe that there are two ways people aim to … Continue reading Wedding comparison →