I think not all competitive spirits are created equal. I think a competitive spirit is healthy when the individual is eager to see how far they can go and relishes the challenge. I think a competitive spirit is unhealthy when the individual transforms into a mean person who passive aggressively attacks and throw cheap snide … Continue reading Healthy competitiveness →

I think it's a duty of leadership to simplify the message. After all, how can anyone follow you when they don't understand your values or which direction is a priority? For example we have the unifying objective approach with lots of little goals to help us achieve the overarching goal. My goal for this group … Continue reading Following simple →

Three friends are playing a game for the first time and they all appear to be at the same level. Each is averaging 50 points per turn. Then all of a sudden one friend breaks the norm and scores 80 points on their turn. Now, is it a coincidence that all the scores after this … Continue reading Shattered glass ceiling →

As long as you wait for the status quo to change of it's own accord, you will invite frustration into your life. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy of annoyance. You spot the pattern, you make a prediction and when it comes true it only drives you up the walls. My solution to this is - … Continue reading Annoyance prophecy →

Some people marvel at grown men who get tattoos referencing a trophy they won when they were 16 but I get it. It's so easy to get swept up in the glory of playing for your school because the community buys in. The younger kids look up to you. The teachers wish you luck. The … Continue reading Glory days →

I think when the goal is to simply win a game or a tournament you cap the potential growth. All the effort you need is to do just enough to win. You simply more points than the opposition at the end of the game. But if your goal is to become the best version of … Continue reading 5 minute Bronco →

The interviewer confessed how awkward he felt sitting in front of the two football players. The two players were Tom Brady and Drew Bledsoe and the awkwardness was stemming from the fact that it was Superbowl week and there was great debate and uncertainty surrounding who would start for the New England Patriots. Now what … Continue reading Drew and Tom →

Simon handed Kurt a jelly. He thanked Simon and went to eat it. Then he saw that it was the last jelly from the box and handed it back to Simon. No persuasion technique in the world could've swayed Kurt's opinion. There was no way Kurt was going to eat it now. --- The last … Continue reading The Last Jelly →

For some people their desire to help is bigger than their capacity to help. They want to be of service and generous with their time and effort but they overextend and don't have the resources to back it up. Whilst this comes from a place of great love it can prove problematic as the helper … Continue reading Overextending helping others →

Sometimes you will see the the principle of reciprocity at play in conversations. If I ask the question to enough people in the circle there's a good chance someone will return the favour. Some people will use this to their advantage and ask questions they really want to answer themselves. That way they get to … Continue reading Reciprocal conversation →