I don't think length of time can accurately describe the closeness of a relationship. I've seen friends who have kept it surface level for 20 years and I've seen strangers plunge into serious emotional depth within 5 minutes of meeting each other. I think the amount of years can definitely allude to a familiarity but … Continue reading Years or vulnerability →

Hat tip to Oliver Burkeman for this one! You didn't get to pick where you grew up and yet you probably made a best friend in the local area. Despite years and years of culture deciding what sports would be available in your town, you probably excelled at them anyway. You didn't get to pick … Continue reading Randomness of the past →

Merry Christmas everyone!!I hope you have a day full of joy, laughter and plenty of chocolate!

I was playing Cluedo the other day and as the game progressed I was faced with a conundrum. If I wanted to gain more certainty I would have to use more turns. But the more time I spent waiting, the closer my opponents would get to figuring out whodunnit too! Eventually I lost. The winner, … Continue reading Playing Cluedo →

The question shotgun! While your answering they're locking and loading, using the time to prepare the next question. This isn't their first conversation and they'll be damned if there's going to be a lull in the conversation. Being in the moment and active listening are luxuries this amateur interviewer can't afford! As long as everyone … Continue reading Allergic to awkwardness →

I think as long you live in fear of the social faux pas you'll forever be timid in your small talk and conservative in your conversation. I think those who flourish in chatty situations have found a way to elevate themselves above the mistake obsession. They don't eternally beat themselves up concerning questionable comments and … Continue reading Charisma constraint →

I think being in the Christmas mood is akin to deja vu. Seeing as so much of the holiday is upholding traditions, you might not feel like Christmas is right around the corner if you're creating new rituals in a new environment with new people. But if you were to do the same things you've … Continue reading The Christmas mood →

Is it better to leave a fantasy, as a fantasy? On the one hand you don't want to die with any regrets and all that. But on the other hand, in your head it's perfect idyllic and surreal so to bring it into reality is to add the limitations of reality. Life as a famous … Continue reading Leave it as a fantasy →

'Where do you buy confidence? Or charisma?' I'm no psychologist but I reckon a good portion of the Christmas shopping will be to buy confidence. No one will come outright and say it, that would be ludicrous and you'd earn yourself a good ridiculing! Instead it'll come in the form of jackets or shoes or … Continue reading Buying confidence →

One of the annoying things about worrying is that there's no respite, it's an eternal pest. For example, you can't get to sleep because you're so worried you and your family are going to miss your flight tomorrow morning. Tomorrow morning comes and you yell, clap and shepherd as much as you can to get … Continue reading Eternally worrying →