I think deep psychology is scary to most. I think it shatters the illusion that we are wise rational beings. To see merit in a deeper more sadistic motive behind decisions can be disturbing. We'd like to think we are evolved creatures who make informed decisions, not that we chose inferior friends so that we … Continue reading Psychological digging →

I feel like a fraud. I can't say with certainty that my way is right. It could be wrong. It could be very wrong! And the points those challengers are making, have merit to them. They could be right. How can I go on with this doubt? How can I look someone in the eye … Continue reading Imposter syndrome →

Jamie uses Tinder. Jamie gets lots of matches. But Jamie never replies to any messages. I suspect Jamie uses Tinder for the validation. Because here we have an easy way to see how many people find Jamie attractive. A quantifiable number that otherwise requires mind-reading to figure out.

Isn't it funny that you could go to a school reunion and end up only talking to the people you are in regular contact with? Like doesn't that miss the point? Aren't you supposed to attend a reunion to reconnect with those you've fallen out of touch with? But at the same time, it makes … Continue reading Reunion cliques →

It's only fair to tell them why.You do them a disservice by hiding behind generic lies like:'It's not you it's me'If they never know what they did wrong, how can they improve?They are doomed to eternally repeating the same mistakes without your honest feedback.You could help them.

"If it is your job to eat a frog, then do it first thing in the morning. And if it is your job to eat two frogs, eat the bigger one first" Mark Twain I think what Mr. Twain was getting at is you suffer twice when you procrastinate dirty smelly uncomfortable tasks you have … Continue reading Eating frogs →

To think it is one thing (god Joni is being such a cow) but to say it out loud to another human being (here, isn't Joni such a cow?) makes it feel that bit more real and also someone is now there to bear witness to your thoughts. Furthermore if that witness replies in kind … Continue reading Dangerous thought transformations →

It's funny how if I don't publish immediately the less assertive I become. It's like the resistance can jam itself in the tiniest of cracks and expand like freezing ice. Transforming what was just a few moments ago an assertive individual into a barrel of doubts and fear. I may have just finished a blog … Continue reading Not publishing immediately →

I think one of the key traits of productive creatives is a comfortability with shit work. The pro knows that shitty drafts are part of the cycle. Each of their projects went through a stage where it was really poor for a while. But they didn't panic, they didn't quit, they kept plugging away at … Continue reading The shit stage →

Once someone said to me: Can I ask you a question? Because I feel it would be great to get the other side's point of view. But they never asked me the question! They proceeded to talk but it never condensed into a single query. There I sat listening intently. Waiting. But by the time … Continue reading Pontification posing →