"Perfectionism is not the same thing has striving to be your best. Perfectionism is the belief that if we live perfect, look perfect, and act perfect, we can minimize or avoid the pain of blame, judgement, and shame. It’s a shield. It’s a twenty-ton shield that we lug around thinking it will protect us when, … Continue reading Brené Brown quote →

Can you imagine how overwhelmed the people who made the first COVID guidelines were? Where was the instruction manual for dealing with a global pandemic? Everyone can critique a first draft but it takes real leadership to stare into the abyss, take into account the overwhelming options, and lay down a plan. Why is this … Continue reading That way! →

The problem with being a firefighter is you have no control over when and where you'll be working. It's not a proactive job. You can't hose down the entire neighborhood and walk away thinking 'well that's that estate safe for another year'. You have to go where the fire is and if it's across town … Continue reading Office firefighter →

As soon as you start measuring, the urge to optimise presents itself. Rank the social posts by the likes and replicate the top performers. A simple formula for success. But what if the top performers contained questionable content? What if the posts you were most proud were shunned by your audience? Do you give your … Continue reading When not to optimise →

I hate the TV show 'Sex Education'. It toys with my emotions. It keeps me guessing. It makes me feel for characters I hate. It constantly makes it hard to pick a favourite character. It doesn't give me what I want! These are also all the reasons why I love the show.

The front right tyre needs replacing again. This is the 8th time in as many months. Curt has just been expelled from his fourth school. Macclesfield United are now into double figures for managerial replacements this season. At what point does someone step back and say: "Ok, what's the real problem here?" I think in … Continue reading The illness not the symptom →

'You're not allowed to talk to anyone else, I'm your only friend remember!' 'Hey, you know you still owe me 10 cents' 'You always leave me out and never invite me to anything' ... It's funny how much your insecurities influence your behaviour and speech. I wish someone would've told me when I was younger … Continue reading Insecurity on the loose →

There is a channel on YouTube called CinemaSins and this channel exclusively produces videos that highlight everything wrong with popular movies. You only have to watch one video to see just how thorough they are. They leave no stone unturned and hone in on every possible mistake. It is perfectionism at its finest! At first … Continue reading CinemaSins →

You can feel it, but can't see it. It loves silence and hates talking. It craves being ignored and despises attention. Some grow so big they fill all the available space and make everyone in the vicinity uncomfortable. What animal is it? ... It's the elephant in the room!

I have two generalisations and a theory for you today. Most people like a quiet life and most people hate confrontation which leads to a shortage in assertiveness. The reason so many people take their complaints to social media is because they've seen it work. They know that if they kick up enough of a … Continue reading Assertiveness shortage →