There's nothing quite like the euphoria of solving a particularly difficult problem. A problem you battled with for what felt like an eternity and at one point even thought it was impossible to solve but you found the answer in the end. That sweet satisfying sense of achievement can be a great source of encouragement … Continue reading Persevering in problem solving →

Bitching, although not an advisable practice, can be a exercise in trust. If two people conduct a 'bitching' session and the discussion remains a secret between the two then both parties have increased trust in each other. Whether as, if one person confides in another and the confidant leaks harmful quotes then the complainer has … Continue reading Trust bitching →

The fear of judgement prevents one from speaking up, leaving their comfort zone or doing something creative. The fear of regret pushes one to speak up, leave their comfort zone or make something creative. The fear of judgement feeds wondering. An eternal speculation of how life could've been different if you took action. The fear … Continue reading Judgement v regret →

Falling asleep is one of those odd exercises where desire and effort are a hindrance. The more you want it and the more effort you expend the harder it is to attain. Someone who's lying in bed desperately wanting to sleep may find themselves tossing and turning all night in frustration. In order to fall … Continue reading Falling asleep →

The court shall now hear the defense. Mr Frissel you have accused yourself of being an idiot. Why is that? Because of what I said to that girl today. Are you a god Mr. Frissel? A what? A god! Eh no What are you then? A human Ah and do humans make mistakes? Yes but... … Continue reading Frissel’s defense →

It's no coincidence that the harder tasks on the to do list are left to last. I call it productive procrastination! You scan your to do list, you see difficult tasks amongst easy tasks and you choose to do the easy tasks first. You rationalise this by saying it's quick and easy but really you're … Continue reading Productive procrastination →

I can understand why young people move back home. Home is familiar. Home feels safe. The big bad world is full of the unknown, the unfair and the unsafe. No wonder people choose the familiar and safe when this is the alternative.  

When considering a gift recently received, the effort and thoughtfulness of the giver can enhance the gift. If the gift was extremely convenient to acquire then it shows little effort eg. money is quite a convenient gift but a limited early edition copy of a book may be extremely hard to find. How much thought … Continue reading Considering gifts →

We did it anyway That’s a great phrase. Without knowing anything about the story you can tell that something didn’t go to plan and it didn’t stop them. They persevered and achieved the goal despite the setback. Well done!

One of the common initiations in team sports is to get up in front of your new teammates and sing a song. This particular ritual is a great example of the misalignment between the comfort zone and the safety zone. When called upon for a song it's no coincidence that your mind instantly draws a … Continue reading Misaligned comfort and safety zone →