I think everyone is irritating to someone. Nobody is flawless. But I think the level of annoyance depends on the relationship commitment. The nose picking of someone you just met and will never see again might be unbearable. The back slapping of your new brother in law might start as insufferable but because he’s your … Continue reading Annoying habits →

‘Ready when you are’ Now those not ready should be starting to feel the heat. It was fine when everyone else wasn’t ready but now the pressure is on because you’re holding people up. People are waiting on you and who knows they might be judging you! And we don’t want people judging us. Also … Continue reading Ready when you are →

Every relationship has it's bumps. If you spend enough time with someone, eventually you're going to clash heads and say something you regret. Regrets are part of life and everyone makes mistakes. But with each fight I think there is a decision to be made. After the brooding is over and the emotions have died … Continue reading Relationship bumps →

Felix has four college roommates.  Felix is a very clean boy.  Every night after dinner, Felix goes straight to the sink and cleans his dirty dishes. Occasionally Felix will see his roommates' dirty dishes left by the sink. And occasionally Felix will be feeling generous and will clean his roommates' dirty dishes for them. It doesn't … Continue reading Felix’s dishes →

'I find your lack of faith disturbing' Vader, Darth I'm part of two sporting teams at the moment and my enjoyment varies hugely between the two. The difference? The faith On one team there is a strong belief that we can win. Not just each game but the whole competition. I love playing for this … Continue reading Team Faith →

Broken promises - learning the hard way to trust a little less.

What are town halls for? It can't be for productivity or to increase revenue because you are stopping the entire workforce for an hour or two to tell them information that could be communicated in an email. It's not for interesting information because the content is so boring that even the leadership team doesn't bother … Continue reading Town halls →

Confrontation is rattling. Even when it goes well we're not safe from doubt. We seek reassurance and repeatedly ask ourselves - should I have said that? It's so anxiety inducing that just hearing someone else's story about confrontation is enough to provoke creating an internal defence should we ever be in that situation. Why is … Continue reading Confrontation is rattling →

Continuous problems are going to continue as long as nothing changes. It only takes a few incidents to realize this was not a once off. If you’re the one with the problem you’ve got to ask yourself: What steps are you taking to prevent it happening again? Otherwise you’re going to be playing out the … Continue reading Continuous problems →

Standing up for yourself is never easy. It’s hard because, in our head, the consequences appear awful. In our head we ask questions like: ‘What if they get so angry they hit me?’ But standing up for yourself doesn’t have to be confrontational. It can be a quiet ‘no’ or a polite refusal. In fact … Continue reading Standing up for yourself →