Waiting for perfect to come along to start is the ‘perfect’ excuse because perfect doesn’t exist. It is an excuse that will last you forever. It is a sure fire way to never start.

I was on a video call recently where I had my webcam turned on but the other person did not and I couldn't help but feel like Clarice in Silence of the Lambs.  You know at the end when Clarice is fumbling through the dark and the serial killer is watching her with night vision … Continue reading Turning your camera on →

When pondering why someone doesn’t open up, it might be worth considering the environment. They might be conditioned to fear vulnerability. For example they may have witnessed the slaughtering Denise received for opening up about her embarrassing date. Or what about Tina who still hasn’t been able to live down that mortifying sex story and … Continue reading Conditioned for invulnerability →

'Where is Jose?' Pedro is scouring the library for his friend to join him on a study break.  Juan, Marco and Chad had said no so now's he looking for Jose, his fourth choice break partner.  Pedro was annoyed at the others for continuing to study, they were being so selfish and boring! Pedro had … Continue reading Where is Jose? →

Both require writing but blogging contains accountability. Blogging is done for all to see, journaling is done for only you to see. Accountability keeps you honest. We can see plain as day, in black and white, if you showed up or not. Accountability can foster discipline. With daily journaling we can't tell if you wrote … Continue reading Blogging v Journaling →

'Sweetie if you could spend just a little bit longer brushing your teeth you could save Mummy and Daddy a ton of money' It may be the truth but I don't think it's going to create much change in children. When you think about it, it's amazing how habits work. Tiny actions in the short … Continue reading Dental habit instigator →

It’s amazing how much of life is about problem solving. It pops up in all walks of life. ‘I’ve got to get the protagonist from A to B’ ‘They’re defending my jump shot too well, I need a new strategy.’ ‘How are we going to increase revenue?’ ‘Grandad’s not talking to me’ There is no … Continue reading Avoided problems →

This group values physical prowess therefore the most athletic attains the highest status. This group values intelligence therefore the smartest attains the highest status. Hanging out with your gym buddies might feel better than spending time with your college friends because of the group values and your standing in the pecking order. Your career accomplishments … Continue reading Group values and status roles →

The dirty dish sat on the counter crusting away. It must've been sitting there for three days at this stage. The longer it sits there the more tension is created in John. Tension that is begging John to act. Confront Steve or wash it yourself! The tension doesn't care, just make the dish clean again! … Continue reading Dirty dish tension →

The captain is leading the lambasting of the manager. It started with just a few players but now everyone is chipping in and piling on the manager. It's all coming out now. All 6 months of repressed anger and bitterness. The question is, where was all this resistance when the manager first proposed his unorthodox … Continue reading Lambasting the manager →