Confrontation is rattling. Even when it goes well we're not safe from doubt. We seek reassurance and repeatedly ask ourselves - should I have said that? It's so anxiety inducing that just hearing someone else's story about confrontation is enough to provoke creating an internal defence should we ever be in that situation. Why is … Continue reading Confrontation is rattling →

Continuous problems are going to continue as long as nothing changes. It only takes a few incidents to realize this was not a once off. If you’re the one with the problem you’ve got to ask yourself: What steps are you taking to prevent it happening again? Otherwise you’re going to be playing out the … Continue reading Continuous problems →

Standing up for yourself is never easy. It’s hard because, in our head, the consequences appear awful. In our head we ask questions like: ‘What if they get so angry they hit me?’ But standing up for yourself doesn’t have to be confrontational. It can be a quiet ‘no’ or a polite refusal. In fact … Continue reading Standing up for yourself →

In the book ‘Grand slam’ they tell a story of how a young Rob Kearney, fresh into the squad (Ireland senior rugby), had the courage to voice an unpopular opinion. He had the bravery to highlight an issue no one had spoken of before. That took place in 2008. Since then Rob has gone on … Continue reading Rob spoke up →

My advice, for bringing the mountain of career options down to a manageable mound, is to try things. To make a list of every career path you have ever considered and start trying them out. Try them with tiny experiments. By that I mean if professional knitter is on your list, start by knitting a … Continue reading Knit a quilt →

You’re walking down the street minding your own business when up ahead you spot three charity collectors. You quickly check your pockets to see if you have any cash. The search was not in vain! You have found a single euro coin and you decide you’ll donate it. As you walk closer to the collectors … Continue reading No right career path →

Cristiano Ronaldo is arguably the best footballer in the world right now and it is blatantly clear he is passionate about what he does. All you have to do is watch one of his games to see he tears himself apart to get the best out of the fans, his teammates and himself. I think … Continue reading Cristiano Ronaldo’s passion →

Because I was one. I experienced first-hand the stress of being a cashier. I know the pain of late night lock ups, of long hours for minimum wage and dealing with aggressive minors looking to buy alcohol. Others might like it but it’s just not for me. It’s not what I want to do with … Continue reading How do I know I don’t want to be a cashier? →

There is no pain free way to achieve your goals. If you want to become an NBA star you need to practice. If you want a six pack you need to work out. If you want to become a bestselling author you need to wrestle with writer's block. Anything worth achieving is sitting just outside … Continue reading Painfree achievement →

How do you come up with good ideas? Well first you need to have a load of bad ideas. You need to get all the awful ones out of your system. Then, once all the terrible ones are gone, all that are left are good ideas. I can't tell you how many it will take, … Continue reading Good ideas →